The saying goes, “Love is a two-way street.” It involves constant giving and taking from both parties involved, but what if the scales are tilting more towards one side?
I would like to elaborate.
Do you feel as though you’re giving your all, making sacrifices, and putting in significant effort, but you’re not receiving the same level of commitment and appreciation?
The interesting part begins here.
The study of psychology can offer some insights here. It can help us recognize certain patterns and signs that indicate your partner might be taking advantage of you.
This article might just be what you need if you’re wondering, “Is my partner taking me for granted?”
1. There is no effort anymore on their part
Let’s start with the obvious.
Isn’t it magical when you first start dating someone? Every look, every touch, every word – it all feels magical. You make an effort to impress each other.
When that effort begins to wane, what happens?
When your partner stops making an effort to keep things exciting and special, it could be a sign that they’re taking you for granted.
The reasons may be as simple as not planning date nights or as profound as not showing interest in your day-to-day life.
They can signal a significant shift in their attitude towards the relationship with these seemingly small changes.
2. You are not acknowledged for your efforts.
Here’s something personal.
Several years ago, I was in a relationship where I felt as if I was doing all the heavy lifting. I remember spending hours planning a surprise birthday party for my partner, inviting all his friends, baking his favorite cake, and decorating the whole place.
A simple “Oh, cool” was his response.
There was no excitement, no gratitude, no appreciation for the effort I had put in. It felt as if he expected me to go the extra mile without any acknowledgment.
I realized something pivotal at that point.
When a partner does not acknowledge your efforts or express gratitude for the things you do for them, they may be taking advantage of you.
3. There is a constant disregard for your opinions
I will paint you a picture from a chapter in my life.
The relationship I was in was one in which my opinions were quickly dismissed or ignored whenever I expressed them. Every time I suggested a movie for our date night, I would hear, “Nah, let’s watch something else.” Or I would suggest a new place to visit, only to hear, “That doesn’t sound fun.”
In the beginning, I thought it was just a matter of different tastes. But the pattern continued.
Here’s what psychology says about this.
You might not realize it, but when your partner consistently disregards your opinions or decisions, it indicates they’re taking you for granted.
You might want to consider whether your partner truly appreciates your presence in their lives if your partner always has the final say or doesn’t value your input.