8 Signs That Your Partner is a Truly Good Person
Is the person you are with genuinely good?
Although you’d like to think so, should you just rely on your intuition?
They sometimes do things that make you wonder, don’t they?
We all want to be with someone who we believe is a good person, but that doesn’t mean society will agree.
There may be a difference in values between different people.
As a result, if my values and yours differ, won’t our concept of what is good also differ?
According to a cross-cultural study, different cultural groups place more emphasis on different virtues, so “goodness” has a strong cultural component.
However, many qualities were found across cultures, which can be seen as a measure of human goodness as a whole.
According to psychology, here are eight signs that your partner is genuinely good.
1) They’re trustworthy
I’m sure you think about whether you can trust or rely on a good person when you think about them.
Usually, this means you can trust what they say. If you lend them something, they’ll return it. If you arrange to meet somewhere, you’ll see them.
There is also a constant challenge to our trust.
A person who is late for an appointment makes you wonder if they have intentionally broken your trust or if they are running late because of circumstances beyond their control.
Research shows that we make judgements on whether to trust strangers in just 34 milliseconds! If they prove trustworthy, we give them more chances to be trusted, and they can become acquaintances, and even friends.
If they let us down, we rarely continue investing in them and never consider them good.
2) They’re benevolent
An umbrella term for all those words that have the same meaning: kind, caring, helpful, etc.
The definition of benevolence is a positive attitude towards yourself, others, and all of humanity.
It’s one of the main things we mean when we say a person is good.
I personally recall the time I saw a woman read an unnumbered 100-flavor ice cream menu to a blind stranger (“What was #57 again?”).
In the study I mentioned earlier, benevolence came third in important virtues after trustworthiness and morality (more on that later).
One study found that good, benevolent people also suffer from more stress, exhaustion, and depression at work. So, while they’re good, their kindness might be taking its toll.
3) They’re courageous
The majority of people agree that good people are courageous.
Do you have a partner?
With its size, fangs, and ferocity, is the lion really a creature of courage?
A person can be courageous by running into traffic to save a lost toddler. But courage can also be demonstrated by wearing an outfit that expresses who they are, even if it risks social ridicule.
We still see courage as a virtue and a key component of a good person, even when the risk is great.
Interestingly, people who exhibit courage seem to encounter less stress than those who do not. If you’re kind, you might experience more stress, but if you’re courageous, you might experience less, so things balance out.
4) They’re empathetic
Can your partner understand themselves and others, especially their feelings and motivations?
This person seems to have a lot of empathy, if that’s the case.
People with empathy are able to “perceive the emotions of others, resonate with them emotionally and cognitively, and distinguish between their own emotions and those of others.”
By doing so, we reduce the distance between us and foster greater understanding and care.
Communication, compassion, and pro-social behavior are all enhanced by empathy.
It sounds like your partner is empathetic and good if he or she understands your feelings and those of others, takes them into account, and connects with them without exploiting them.