Why people can’t find love: understanding what you’re searching for

Why people can’t find love: understanding what you’re searching for

Love is one of the most abundant resources in the universe. So why do so many people struggle to find it? Simple: they don’t understand what they’re searching for, and they look for it in the wrong places. Most people don’t want to love as much as they want the gratification of being loved —…

The trap of understanding: considerations are concessions

The trap of understanding: considerations are concessions

The idea that mutual understanding naturally leads to the cessation of conflict is erroneous. While understanding may help people respond to others with greater patience and compassion, it does little to change the original needs and desires that demand understanding. Those who seek to be understood are asking for a concession: they want others to…

Why men get married: it’s not about you

Why men get married: it’s not about you

Men don’t approach marriage the same way that women do. Given the enormous risk and responsibility entailed, most men will only consider the possibility of marriage when everything in their life is working. This means that they have arrived at some measure of professional success and financial security, and that there are no significant problems…

The Gottman Doctors: Women Tend to Be More Unhappily Married & Non-Cuddlers Have an Awful Sex Life!

The Gottman Doctors: Women Tend to Be More Unhappily Married & Non-Cuddlers Have an Awful Sex Life!

Drs. John and Julie Gottman are world leading relationship researchers that have been studying couples for over 40 years, publishing over 200 academic journal articles and 46 books. They are the co-founders of The Gottman Institute and Love Lab.

Women do the right things with the wrong men: the good times-to-hassle ratio

Women do the right things with the wrong men: the good times-to-hassle ratio

Women often complain that the men they’re not really interested in always seem to come back, while the men they’d really like to have relationships with never seem to reciprocate their feelings. This is because women do the right things with the wrong men. In this episode, I’ll discuss how this influences the good times-to-hassle…

How women DISRESPECT men without realizing it: bursting the bubble

How women DISRESPECT men without realizing it: bursting the bubble

This is the second installment of my two-part series on unintentional disrespect. The intention is to help prevent women from sabotaging the relationships they want with the men they want to have them with. In this episode, I identify two other ways in which women place themselves above men with their words and behavior, thereby…

What Makes Exes Come Back?

What Makes Exes Come Back?

What Makes Exes Come Back? In “What Makes Exes Come Back,” renowned relationship expert, Coach Lee looks more into powerful strategies following a breakup for those who want their exes to come back and want to know how to influence an ex’s decision to reconsider the relationship. Drawing from his extensive experience and the principles…