Psychology’s 8 signs you’ve found your life partner

5) Conflict pushes your relationship forward

Conflict is generally viewed as a negative thing, isn’t it?

That is, until it isn’t.

Harvard Medical School Professor Eugene Beresin, M.D., M.A., believes that “relationships become stronger, more enduring, and closer when conflicts are resolved.”

In the absence of conflict, there would be no need for change, which ultimately goes against human nature.

If you have a life partner, tension and conflict are bound to appear at some point. We all change. We face challenges. We learn.

What matters is how you handle the conflict.

A partner for life shouldn’t run away at the slightest inconvenience. They shouldn’t make you feel alone when you’re drowning or let you bear the entire burden of the relationship.

A huge sign you’ve found your life partner is that every disagreement pushes your relationship forward rather than backward.

Communicate, set boundaries, learn, and grow together.

6) You love your partner for who they are, not who they could be

One of my past relationships was recently discussed with my therapist, and she said, “It seems you were in love with his potential rather than the person right in front of you.”

Her assessment of the relationship was spot on.

My ex kept promising that he would change for the better, but his promises never materialized.

I know plenty of people who have changed while in a relationship, strengthening their connection with their partner in the process.

You should, however, keep in mind how many times your partner has tried and failed to make an important change.

In the long run, if your partner lacks initiative but doesn’t take any concrete steps to change, you are likely to complain about the exact same problem five years from now.

Ask yourself: “Will spending my life with this person make me happy if nothing changes?”

7) The relationship is a place of calm and stability rather than chaos

Life is more than just romance, as we both know.

The majority of us desire a romantic partner, but we also strive for a fulfilling career, a hobby that makes us feel alive, enriching friendships, and unforgettable experiences.

You might not be able to flourish in other areas of your life if your relationship is chaotic.

Our partners have a tremendous impact on our mental and physical well-being.

Your partner doesn’t make you feel safe and doesn’t consistently show up for you, and you’ll constantly feel frustrated, scared, panicked, anxious, and stressed if you’re stuck in a cycle of chaos.

As a result, these feelings will cloud your day-to-day life, contributing to a lack of focus at work, weaker friendships, and an overall feeling of emotional exhaustion.

You have the time and energy to pursue your dreams and fulfill your potential in life if your relationship is calm and stable.

You need your life partner to support you and lift you up.

8) You choose each other when it matters

The concept of emotional support goes beyond rooting for each other and allowing each other to follow their dreams.

When it matters, it’s also about choosing and prioritizing the relationship.

Here we aren’t talking about a one-month summer romance. This is your life partner.

Ultimately, this is the person you want sitting next to you when you’re 80 and rocking.

Be sure you both value the connection you’ve built with each other. Choose the relationship when it counts.